Japanese cheating husband

If you are currently in a relationship with a Japanese man you possibly wonder whether he would cheat on you in the future.

Or if you have a Japanese husband and his recent behaviour is strange such as coming home quite late after working or sending a text message to someone frequently, you could probably doubt that he is cheating.

In this article, I will cover the following matters for those above concerns.

The ratio of a Japanese man cheating
Checklist of Japanese husband cheating
The reason Japanese husbands cheating
The psychology of cheating husband
If you find your husband cheating
The result of cheating in Japan

After reading it I hope you will understand Japnese cheating husbands typical tendency and plan countermeasures for that.

Hiro

Let me introduce myself a little. I am Hiro from Tokyo and I was born and raised here and well understand overall Japanese culture including cheating customs.

目次 Contents

The ratio of a Japanese man cheating
Checklist of Japanese husband cheating
The reason Japanese husbands cheating
The psychology of cheating husband
If you find your husband cheating
The result of cheating in Japan
Conclusion

The ratio of a Japanese man cheating

If you watch the news in Japan, you will see a lot of scandalous news of Japanese celebrities cheating, and it is commonly seen in Japanese media and you might be wondering how many general Japanese people have such a cheating experience.

Based on the poll done by Japan sex survey (Questionnaires were answered by 5,029 people in 2020), 57.9% of Japanese men had experienced cheating on their lovers or spouses (having intercourse with affair partners).

In contrast, 46.3% of Japanese women have that experience.

In you are concerned about the Japanese wife scandal, please refer to the below article.

I am afraid that unmarried men are also included in this ratio but you might feel surprised to see the percentage.

Reference: https://www.jfpa.or.jp/pdf/sexservey2020/JexSexSurvey_all.pdf

Checklist of Japanese husband cheating

If you are currently worried about your husband cheating, please refer to the below checklist to check whether he is cheating.

	His recent behaviour	Yes/No
1	He came home late from work
2	His holiday work have been increased
3	He finishes dinner outside often
4	He took a shower soon after coming home
5	He started to take care of fashion
6	He started buy his underwear
7	He doesn’t often pick up phone when ringing.
8	Credit card expense has been increased
9	He often refuses going out together with his family
10	There are fewer conversation with him at home
11	The position of your car passenger seat is often changed
12	He often take off his marriage ring
13	He checks your (his wife) schedule frequently
14	He frequently clips his neils
15	He is locking his phone

If there are more than 4 yes, you could possibly doubt his cheating behaviour.

The reason Japanese husbands cheating

I’d like to share why Japanese husbands cheat.

The relationship with their wives is not well

A married man often tells his affair partner that his relationship with his wife is not working well.

It could be like his excuse to approach another lady, but there are a lot of cases their marital relationship is ended already.

A typical Japanese case is that the husband usually doesn’t come home soon after working and never does housework and child care at home and the wife is disappointed in him.

The affair partner could also expect the man could divorce soon in that situation and it could end up in a lot of trouble.

A current wife and an affair partner are different

Some cheating husband consider their wives are important partners in their families and supportive of them.

Japanese married women tend to do hard work of housework and childcare and many of their husbands tend to trust their wives,

but they no longer consider their wives as attractive ladies and rather see the wives as mothers of their kids.

Those men tend to like other women outside of their family and end up cheating.

Opportunities to see a lot of ladies in a workplace place

If there are many female co-workers in their working places, there could be a lot of chances to be in an extra relationship.

Being co-workers, facing to each other almost everyday and there are a culture of drinking together with them in Japan lead to inappropriate relationship.

Some ladies approach married men

Some ladies prefer dating a married man because their similar age men looks a little childish and a married man looks trustful and having responsibility.

Also for married women, dating a married man seems suited just having fun in an extra relationship and trying not to ruin each other current family.

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The psychology of cheating husband

Usually those husbands want to have fun with other ladies and at the same time, they cannot miss their current wives and kids.
I’d like to share what kind of psychology cheating husbands have.

They don’t want to get caught by their wives

The majority of Japanese cheating husbands hope that their adulterer relationship never been found by their wives.
If their wives find out about the behaviour, the husbands could be isolated in their family, they could end up divorcing and they usually cannon have parental rights, so they must be away from their own kids.
To avoid the tragedy, majority of Japanese men wants to hide from their wives about cheating.

There is no comfortable place at home

Japanese men usually work hard till late at night and return home late everyday and many of them don’t do any housework or child care.

Then some of them lose trust from their family members.

In that case, the husbands feel small, isolated and lonely at home and start to seek extra relationships to cover the loneliness.

Not a certain affair partner but many of the partners

Some married men couldn’t be satisfied with one affair partner and seek for a lot of affair partners.

The characteristic tendency usually never be improved.

Replacing with a lot of partners and thinking of just having fun, so unexpectedly there is often not much negative effect on their existing family relationships.

If you find your husband cheating

If you find your husband cheating, collect evidence as much as possible.

Not only text message record, receipt of love hotel but also objective evidence is usually required such as photos of going to love hotel, or a certain house together.

That evidence will judge how much compensation you will receive from your husband or his affair partner, so you should collect as much as possible.

The result of cheating in Japan

There are a lot of reasons for cheating and I’d like to share what could happen after cheating in Japan.

Breakup with partner

If cheating is found by their partners it is highly likely to be divorced in Japan.

Japanese people usually never allow partners to have an extra relationship they tend to feel betrayed by their partners.

If there is any scandalous news of celebrities in Japan, the celebrity’s popularity is dramatically decreased and a lot of Japanese people sympathise with the betrayed cheated partner.

Being sued

If cheating is found by your partner, it is likely to be sued in Japan. If it end up in court, your surrounding (friends or co-workers) also notice you cheated and you possibly lose trust in society or working place as well.

If you hid that you are married and built an extra relationship, you are likely to be sued by your adultery partner as well.

Pay compensation

Adultery is not a crime, but it is an act for divorce condition under Article 770 of the Civil Code.

The article states that you can request a divorce “when your spouse has been unfaithful”.

The compensation amount could be 1 million to 5 million yen (US$7,500 to US$37,500) depending on the relationship status (If the relationship is already bad from the beginning, the amount could be low) or having kids or not.

Being fired by your company

Cheating itself is not the reason for being fired by your company but if you cheated with your co-workers, business partners or customers, and the belonging company incur loss due to that, you might be fired by your company.

If you build an adulterous relationship with them, it could affect the business relationship between the companies, and the relationship could be broadcasted by the media as scandalous news or make negative harmony in working place.

Therefore, the company could decide to fire those persons who incur losses from those illicit relationships.